If you have holiday guests coming in, that will be staying for more than a few days, what do you expect from them, if anything? Or would you prefer, they stay in a hotel?
Was reading Dear Abby today, a man said that his brother and his children stayed for like a week. Said that altho, the relatives made their own meals, they left the dishes in the sink, for the man's wife to clean up. Also said they left their laundry, for the "maid", left lights on in rooms not being used, etc.
Doesn't sound like they were slobs, just that they expected, the wife, to clean up after them, which the man said took several hours, after they left.
Just wondering, what you would expect, from holiday guests, family or not.
I was brought up, that guests are just that, guests. You make them feel comfortable, and at home, and attend to what they need or want, within reason. I do not expect guests to make their own meals or do the dishes, but they may want to do their own laundry, as they may have special requirements, for their clothes, I don't want to wreck someone else's clothes. The only thing I would ask, is to respect some simple household rules, the biggest one is, don't let the cats out, no drinking to the point of your drunk, and no loud parties, that if I have to work, keep the noise down, at like by 11pm.
I was however taught, when you go to someone's house, you respect their household rules, and offer to help, even if you know, they are going to say no, at least offer.
I do know, I would never go, to Lola's house, if Dallas was playing on TV, m-o-l, m-o-l, m-o-l, as she would not let Bump watch his team, during dinner, Bump would go to a hotel, M_O_L !