Thank you all. I'm so glad you're here.
You don't know FOR SURE that Bonnie isn't getting awesome care. Imagine her being spoiled rotten by a somewhat aloof owner.
I do know that at the time, the vet had 7 cats and 2 dogs, and I think her mother lived with her and her sons. ASSuming the mother is still living (there), maybe she can spoil Bonnie while the vet's at work. I can only hope the vet learned her lesson after Bonnie's seizure and finally started giving her the medical care she needed. I do take comfort in this: because of that seizure, I'm pretty sure she'll never get vaccinated again. I'm convinced over-vaccination played a large role in her problems. When I gave her up, I specifically asked the vet to not vaccinate her and her reply was "I'm a HOLISTIC vet." Yes, I know, but I'm just sayin' . . .
This may sound really weird, but after reading Mo's posts about the things being taught in her vet tech classes, I'm actually starting to feel like maybe Bonnie's issues weren't
entirely my fault. If all the vets and techs are taught even half of the crap that Mo's hearing in class, then the odds were against me giving her the care she needed from the beginning. I went to multiple vets with little help, and it sounds like the vast majority of them are being taught the same lousy information. For 6 years I googled and researched and tried to find answers and didn't have much luck until I found catinfo.org, which led me to other/better resources. By then, I was worn out, and by the time I gave her up, I was so mentally/emotionally stressed and exhausted, my decision-making skills were probably not where they should have been. Though honestly, looking back, I still don't know what else I could have done.
In the end, she was my responsibility, but having better educated vets in my corner might have helped.