Also you don't need to know everything about cats to have a cat.think about when you all got your first cat you probably didn't know much or as much as you know now.theres a first time for everything and Lea is going to be my first cat even if it takes months for her to come around.Also this is not the first pet I've had I've had many dogs as pets and have 1 right now in the yard I know that pets take a while to come around and get use to you I just didn't expect Lea to take this long.From most people I know they've told me a kitten come around in a few days so I expected that from Lea.
There's no point in making comparisons to other kittens or cats. Lea is a special case, and that's what you are dealing with.
I never said you need to know everything. I said that Lea is not socialized and an un-socialized kitten can take skill and experience to bring around. Being impatient and expecting her to become a cuddly kitten in a week, just because someone told you that's what kittens do, is not realistic.
The fact is, Lea may never be a cuddly kitten. Some cats aren't. It's just their personalities to not be. That's why, if someone wants certain characteristics, it is better to go for an older, already socialized, kitten or young cat.
So you have to make up your mind to accept her, no matter what she turns out to be like.
Raising a kitten like Lea offers many wonderful rewards, but those rewards are a long time coming.
It's hugely gratifying and humbling when a scared innocent soul begins to trust you, there is nothing like it, but it has to be done on her schedule, not yours. It may take many months, it may not. But putting a time stamp on it "one more month" is not a useful way to think. You need to be patient and go at her speed, and forget about your own expectations. This is all about Lea, not you.
That is what I mean about being experienced and skilled with working with special needs kittens like Lea. it's something you learn with experience. How to go very very slowly.
I am not saying you can't do it. I don't know you. But I do know about socializing kittens like Lea, and I know you have to lower your expectations of what will happen with her and when.