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Middle Child:
Is he attacking in play?  When Queen Eva was a kitten she wanted to play with Tolly Angel all the time.  Tolly loved her and tried to keep up but of course he was 10 and she was a boppity baby and he couldn't.

My solution was to give Queen Eva more interactive play time. She required a ton of play time to keep her out of mischief. Hours a day.

It sounds like things might be a bit quiet for your little boy.  I would add more play sessions.  Mix up the toys.  Get him a stuffed animal that is about his size or slightly larger and teach him to bite and beat up on that, instead of you or Shadow.

When he goes after Shadow, distract him with a Game, so Shadow can get away.  Does she get up on top of the cat tree for peace?

The rescue remedy may help reduce her stress, worth a try anyway, you can get a small bottle, I got mine at amazon, it wasn't too expensive (relatively speaking)

Shadow:
No its more than just play now, he can be a bit viscous with Shadow. I play with him a lot, its hard when you are trying to get their food for them and as soon as I turn my back, he is on her. I unfortunately have to work, lol so cant be here 24/7
We have cat trees, 3 of them, but Shadow does not go on them too much, her safe place is the couch.
I also always use toys for him to bite, never my hands. I have had to tell hubby a few times not to use his hands.

Pookie:
Has Mango been neutered yet?

Shadow:

--- Quote from: Pookie on December 02, 2014, 01:51:43 PM ---Has Mango been neutered yet?

--- End quote ---
Yes he has been neutered

Middle Child:
These are my suggestions.  Keep feliway going.

Keep them separated when you are not home to intervene.

Establish an interactive play time routine for them both.  Play with Mango first, (to burn off energy) then make him wait while Shadow gets her turn. Then Mango gets more time. Then Shadow again.

 Shadows sessions may have to be short at first, but eventually Mango will learn to wait his turn. Of course he won't learn to wait right away, it will take him time to get the idea. Just keep gently pushing him away and focus on Shadow (or throw something for him to chase).  She may be too nervous to play at first, but when she sees you are making Mango stay a way she will eventually start to relax more.

This can be done with rapture sessions too, and treat sessions.  The idea is to get on the floor with them both, showing attention to them both, and to teach Mango to take turns, which also is teaching him to listen/defer to you.

Each session (whether play, treat or cuddle) can last as long or as short at your time allows. The important thing is frequency and consistency.  Devote the time to this (and it is very important that your husband get on board with this and proceed in the same way you do) now so the years to come can be relatively peaceful..

Rescue Remedy may help Shadow.

When you see him going for Shadow, intervene by throwing a toy (for him, not at him :)) or dragging a string or any other game he likes.  Don't yell (I'm not saying you do, just part of standard advice) or make sudden loud noises like clapping your hands or chase him away.   

Redirection is better. Negative reinforcement doesn't really work on cats. You want to change the habit to something else, is the idea.

As time goes on, and you see Mango learning, and stopping himself from harassing Shadow, reward him with lots of praise and if he is food motivated a special treat he gets only at those times.

One more thing:  A Game Mango may find interesting, since there are two of you. Each human should have a stack of whatever throw toys Mango likes, then separate yourselves by a hallway or room or however the lay out of your house works.  One human throws the toy for Mango, in the direction of the other human. he chases it down, either all the way to the other human so the toy can be thrown again, or as far as he wants to chase it, then the other human throws a toy back in the other direction.

This can be a wonderful satisfying Game for a young energetic cat.  he's getting the focus of both humans at once, and he's getting to run and chase.

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